the excuses you make for yourself.

what does it mean to 'make a disclaimer'?
no honey, i know what it means.
but what does it really, really mean?
does it mean u don't get faulted for whatever u say afterwards?
does it actually give u that feel of power -
that you are all-knowing, and superiror?

i, for one, make alot of disclaimers.
but it's only recently that it's come to my attention
the real intention of some people who make disclaimers-
me included.
also, the misinterpretation of disclaimers
which influences how the person who makes the disclaimers is viewed.

a says, "i am insensitive, u gotta tell me how u feel."
b replies, "so... what? you just made an excuse for not understanding how i feel?"

no! it doesn't say that.
many times, while u make disclaimers,
people miss the point totally.
i can't seem to articulate my argument properly now though.
urgghhh. frustrating.

"i know that blah blah blah, but..."
"uh huh? but blah blah blah still holds, and..."
"i said i knew that. so yea. doesn't count."

huh? did u get that?
making disclaimers seemed to have empowered one.
that by making disclaimers,
your arguments are more wholesome,
that you have acknowledged the presence and maybe even validity of others,
just that you hold true to ur argument.
but it's not substantial enough to state, i repeat state,
that your argument is the most valid one
just because you've acknowledged others, ya' know.

im incoherent now.
super unable to structure my post in an intelligible manner.
too bad u've read til here.
treat me to coffee for a discussion if u'd like.
*sleepy.