A Dance of Moths

been readin some of Goh Poh Seng's works
on the buses n trains to and fro school n work.
it's doing me some good.

but i didnt think it could make me think..

"We've been made strangers...by marriage, by domesticitty and career building, by functional roles."

it suddenly struck me-
what i perceived as stability n security
could be the basis for the destruction of it.
how many times have we taken things(and people) for granted
just because we know they'll be around?
i started to question my perception of marriage,
and discussed it with my sis-in-law earlier today.
i guess she's right-
it's not just marriage.
a long term r/s could have the same probs.
and the repercussions, we see everyday.

relationships r complex-
it's never just one someone's fault.
and i guess that's what i like abt it too.
both(or every) party gotta work to make it work.
if u feel insecure,
it's probably cos the other party doesnt make u feel safe.
nevermind if s/he's tried-
it's not wad u needed.
it's not about how much u put in,
it's about how much's accomplished.
u can do something for a hundred years
and it won't work,
just cos it doesnt work that way.

"We are fatally attacted towards the lights, the flames, around which we dance and dance. It's because our souls are dark, because we have no light within us, that we propel ourselves towards these external lights, these materialistic lights."