tradtion or sense? or is it not necessarily a choice?

Compromising traditional values seems to be an inevitable side effect of progress.

I was on the train ride home with a colleague who has recently been proposed to. She asked if I believed in premarital sex. Said she read somewhere that 1 in 2 Singaporean women does it. So she eyed me, since she didnt.

Then we talked about male virgins. I said I dont think there are many around, and we were both surprised at how different our answers were to "How many males do you think are virgins in this cabin and the two neighbouring ones?" Zero and more than half. Apparently, two people who work in the same environment can have very different perceptions of the world around us.

Two faces came to mind, both of whom swear by celibacy and seem a little over confident about their boyfriends being virgins. And both Catholic. I wonder if there's any correlation. But I digress.

My conversation with my friend from Chicago today steered from 'friends with benefits' to premarital sex. And he mentioned he thinks you should be intimate before you get married. I've considered his point before today, and decided it was valid, especially in his context. Sexual compatibility.

"What if you get married, and realise that you're not sexually compatible? Marriage is serious to me, and many marriages here fail."

I guess if I wear my granny's hat, I will say that no honourable marriage will fail because of sex. But I'm not my granny. When society stops offering comfort in the form of stability, affection rises exponentially in value.

Well, compatibility in that department is not a big problem in my context. Yet.