happenings.

started 'work' last evening, and this interesting episode happened:
to stall time while the band gets ready for the next number, the lead singer entertained the crowd. without thinking, he said, "come back again tomorrow, i'll give you one of the girls (meaning one of the dancers)." and the crowd cheered. the dancers were stretching by the side of the stage (full dress rehearsal) and didnt respond to the announcement. i thought the patriarchial element was rooted in their culture.. but minutes later, i witnessed the confrontation between a dancer n another guy, furiously pointing to the stage and the crowd, muttering angry words albeit softly offstage. and the message was conveyed to the lead singer, who apologised furiously to the crowd for what he said before.

i guess these slighting comments never apply to guys because they're not so wanted. or, so not wanted.

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so many events of the past have come back to me recently. its amazing how things change, how feelings change. what does "the one" mean to you? have you found a concretization for it? what does rejection mean to you? how do you reject someone - by assuming you know whats good for the person? i find certain things amusing simply cos ive been through it and the actions so obviously convey your intentions. and i find myself amusing cos i used to keep falling for the same old traditional tricks - those that make use of people's trust in you. and i know a master of such tricks. let me recall some of the tricks.

crash course to trickery 1101.
1. establish yourself as putting up a strong front - and make it obvious that it is just a front.
2. appear to have been through turmoils in life, such that you are jaded and weak from the inside.
3. inform the victim that you have been most fortunate you feel most fortunate to have her/him.
4. begin to monopolise your right over victim, occasionally bringing jealousy into the pic.
5. act nonchalant at times so that it washes over the jealousy, making you look like you're trying not to care.

and there. you have succeeded in portraying yourself as a weak being trying to put on a brave front so noone sees it, struggling and needing your victim. this effectively creates a void in said victim, and arouses the innate want to care and look after people, at the same time feeding the need to feel needed. perfect.

oh and of course, the prerequisites for the course.
1. a poker face
2. a theatre company within yourself so you can act, set the mise-en-scene, control technical effects, stage manage and most importantly, direct your victim.