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u know my problem right?
of forgetting everything i wanna blog about.
so yesterday was a day that i decided to jot down
the stuff i wanna blog about.
so here goes.
take a deep breath!

so i was watching crossfire
at 12plus am at night,
waiting for the internet connection.
the topic for the discussion was,
"Are You MAN or Not?"

so as usual,
this social worker for family matters was present,
as were a few actors,
including susanna.

the social worker spoke from this "psychologist" point,
and pointed out the importance of the father figure
after a baby boy reaches 18months.
so this importance of the father figure in the boy's life,
is basically for the child to realise the different characteristics
of the father, and that the father n mother are different.
rahhh.
i do realise that this is just an observation (or wadever term),
but the way the social worker put it in this discussion,
she was saying that there are traits
that the child must learn from the father,
in order to be man.
and why must any male be "man"?!

social constructs always irk me.
even though i subscribe to stereotypes pretty often
to identify things and beings around me.
but i'm entitled to my rights of ranting.
urghhh.

so this brings us to the point:
"What makes u Man?"

at this point,
the host raised a very good point.
he asked the different speakers
to list a character whom they thought were Man.
so this of course made them realise
that the idea of 'manliness' varies across individuals.
i liked the way he raised this question
to the then overly-emotionally engaged speakers
instead of just raising the point he was trying to prove.

they proceeded on to the discussion of
"how women can make the men more Man".
then susanna made the irkiest statement, ever.

susanna:
women are CREATE (her lousy grammar but the insistence to use English on a Mandarin programme irks me too) to help bring out the best in men.

she really made women sound like the subs in life.
so our only purpose on earth,
is to bring out the best in men?!
no wonder she's happily married.
what a load of bullshit.

the actor who had the most similar stand as i did,
was shen qing shan.
i don't know his english name though.
when the social worker kept insisting
that all men should be very manly,
and it was a mistake of the society
that some men are not manly enough,
he gave an expression i would.
he arched his eyebrow and gave the irritating
"well u think u r right, but r u really" smile.

shen:
for all these men (the socially deemed "less manly" ones), there are 'natural solutions'. some of them like more dominant women, and it suits the world fine.

so the social worker assumed,
that all men crave to be manly,
just they didn't turn out this way.
urghhh.
shoot her, won't u?
she has this whole idea of wad everyone wants to be.
stop assuming, can u?!

i believe that u should be whoever u wan to be,
be in whatever skin u're comfortable in,
and fuck social norms and constructs.
why "try" when u're comfortable with who u are?
the whole world's asking pple around them to try.

"u just need to try to turn straight.
if u try, u will be able to do it,
it's just a matter of CHOICE."

"oh, try to walk with ur feet parallel to each other,
then u'll look girlier."

"do try to speak softer,
u'll appear more demure that way."

WHY?!
be whoever u're comfortable being.
and i quote gale once again,
"fuck the world, love yourself."
why try to stop being someone whom u identify with?
perhaps u'll be comfortable with who u become,
i don't deny that.
but why?!
to fit into the screwed up world?
to make sure u have an easier life?
to make sure u aren't discriminated against?
this society is screwed up enough,
why let it be?
don't let it be.

be who u are comfortable being,
if a group of people can't accept u for who u are,
i'm sure there'll be another group who will.
and so what if there isn't?
yes, i do agree that humans are social creatures
and few hermits exist.
but i don't root for compromising urself
in exchange for that kind of existence.

and here i urge you,
spare yourself,
and spare the people around you.
if they don't think the same thoughts you do,
they're not wrong.
they're different from you.
if they don't think the same thoughts the majority does,
they're not wrong.
they're just not common.
but u're entitled to think who the bitches are.
just don't force ur opinions on them.
i can tell u i think u're a bitch,
but u're u, and who u wanna be.
go ahead,
i just tell u wad i think,
i don't epect you to change.
i don't think u're wrong,
i just think u're a bitch.
and yes, it's different.
to me.

and urggh.
dont come to ask me if i'm ok,
wad's wrong with expressing my views online?
wad's wrong with telling u what i really think?
yes i'm perfectly fine.
but i wont be if u come asking me,
to "chill", to "take care", etc.
it doesnt mean that i don't have my views,
when i don't express them often enough in ur face.
sometimes,
i just can't be bothered.